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Marriage Tip: Date Your Spouse

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I was asked how often do my husband and I spice things up and go on dates? That’s a great question and the answer is: as often as possible.
Marriage Tip: Date Your Spouse
At the very least, we plan one-on-one time together at least four times a month.


Our time together is intentionally planned for us to connect on a mental, emotional, and intimate level.


Intimacy is one of the benefits of marriage, and we both work hard to make sure it remains an important part of our relationship.


We’ve been married 15 years and have four children. It’s easy to let the role of parenting and providing for the family get in the way of connecting as husband and wife. In fact, we did let it put a damper on our love life, but we decided to change things up and moved our marriage higher up on the priority list.



At first, we started planning car date nights. Our kids were too young to stay home alone and we were digging ourselves out of debt. We didn’t have extra money for a babysitter so we’d sit in the car, out in the driveway. This allowed us to enjoy each others’ company and still know the kids were asleep in bed.


Back then we realized our relationship was struggling a bit because we were sleep-deprived and over-worked young parents. This often left us frustrated, but wasn’t until my husband suggested we try something new. That idea gave birth to our car dates and later real dates out on the town.


Nowadays, we enjoy a nice restaurant and movie before heading home to relax. Those few hours out with him remind me that we aren’t just parents, but lovers. Our marriage has had it’s ups and downs just like any other, but we made a commitment early on that we would do whatever it took to create a better relationship. That commitment wasn’t just to benefit us, but our children as well.


I know they act all grossed out when we kiss, hug, or say sweet things to each other, but I know they’ll learn to appreciate the example we show them of marriage.
Marriage Tip: Date Your Spouse
Part of that example is intimacy and it’s the very reason they’re even here today. We want them to know we’re committed to building a strong marriage, with a deep love and passion for one another.


If you are in a place in your marriage where the passion is wearing thin, I want to challenge you to try something new.

That something could be a simple date night at home where you and your husband exchange massages.This is a great idea for couples who’ve experienced a lag in intimacy. Giving each other a back, neck, or foot massage can encourage touch, but reduce any pressure to go any further if you’re both not ready.
K-Y® TOUCH® is a good option for your massage because it’s soft, creamy, and warms with every rub. With the weather being cold, skin can be dry and super sensitive. Rubbing and massaging skin with dry hands can cause friction and make the massage feel rough. This is true for my husband. His skin is really dry in the in the winter and while he loves a back massage, he doesn’t enjoy it as much if I don’t use a massage creme.


With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, I hope I’ve given you a few ideas to create a romantic date night with your spouse.
If you could give a newlywed couple tips on keeping the romance going in their marriage, what would you tell them?


1 thought on “Marriage Tip: Date Your Spouse

  1. I think it's so great with hectic schedules and children and all of that you make time to connect with your husband so often. It's so hard to set that time aside, but it's so worth it. Thanks for sharing your love story. I hope you guys have an amazing Valentine's Day in just a few weeks! #client

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