How to Overcome Grief By Doing for Others

This post was written in honor of a sweet friend on mine and sponsored by GoFundMe. All opinions are mine. 
In life you sometimes meet people that impact your life so deeply that when they are gone they are deeply missed. I think that’s how we are called to live. Our lives should leave a positive imprint on the lives of those who knew us.

A dear friend of mine went home to be with the Lord after battling Cancer for over a decade. The crazy thing is, not many people knew she had Cancer.

Carol was on of the most joyful people I knew. Even in the last months when she was in pain, she pushed beyond it as best she could and kept her cheerful countenance.

She was such an inspiration and women of strength. When I heard the news of her passing I was so grief stricken even though I’d been trying to prepare myself for weeks. 

The day I heard the news, I cleared my schedule and planned to stay home, but my husband encouraged me to to something even better. He told me to do something positive rather than focusing on the negative aspect of not having our friend with us anymore.

At that moment, I decided to share how Carol impacted my life and honor her through a memorial. I set up the very first memorial using GoFundMe.com

It gave her friends and family and place to leave kind words and send monetary support to the family. The campaign was so easy to set up using the GoFundMe dashboard. 

Each step guided me through the process of setting a goal, describing the campaign and figuring out how to tell people about it.

For the memorial, GoFundMe, provided links so I could share the campaign on Facebook and other social media. 

Another friend, used the print campaign sign feature and distributed details at Carol’s workplace. We were able to raise over $4,000 for the family.


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    Working to do something special for the family helped me get through the first few weeks of hearing about Carol without feeling overwhelmed with sadness.

    With Christmas coming up, I started a new campaign for Carol’s boys. This will be their first Christmas without their mother. I know what it is to lose a parent at a young age and it’s hard. I lost my dad on my eleventh birthday so birthdays and holidays are emotionally tough. 

    They will still miss their mom this Christmas, but by sending them some spending money, they can do something fun. I think that will go a long way toward spreading some joy in their lives.

    I started the Carol Joy Christmas fund about a week ago and  few days ago begun sending the information out to friends and family. 

    We’ve already gotten some donations and  I’m confident we can reach our goal by Christmas Eve.

    I always feel weird about asking for help, but I care deeply about those affected by Cancer. 

    What causes do you care deeply about this holiday season? Be sure check out GoFundMe as a resource to raise funds for the people and causes you care about most.

    This post was sponsored by GoFundMe. All opinions are mine.

    14 Comments

    1. This is such a nice thing to do. I think it's great to do things for others all the time, but it really does help with greif at least in my experience! – Jeanine

    2. This really reminds me of the saying, "When life hands you lemons, make lemonade." What a great way to make something positive out of a great loss. Thank you for sharing.

    3. I think this is a great thing to do!! I am sure she appreciates the help.

    4. That is such a sweet and positive thing to do. I'm sure it's very much appreciated!

    5. It is amazing how good we feel when we serve others. What a great idea this was!

    6. So inspiring and rewarding to you and to her family. It gave those who knew Carol a way to contribute and everyone got to make a difference. Love how you wrote about it.

    7. This is a great campaign. I agree about doing something good to ever come your grief.

    8. It's wonderful when we're able to help others. GoFundMe sounds like a good vehicle to do that. So awesome that it's not just a chance for monetary assistance but also great encouragement too.

    9. I think it is wonderful that you were able to do this for her family to offset expenses. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family.

    10. Whenever I find myself missing my dad, I remember all the great times that I had with him and those memories still bring me joy.

    11. GoFundMe saved our day when we found our my Dadin Law has prostate. Its also the overwhelming positive energy support and messages w got that renewed my faith in human kindness! Thank you for what you have done for this family Saidah!

    12. Such a good idea. Grief around the holidays is so common, what a great way to change focus.

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